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Once
we have decided to reach out to people in our daily lives, it is
important how we do it. The first and foremost requirement of befriending someone is that if we
feel the person can be our friend then we have to make them feel too that
even we can be their friend. People always appreciate a person of
substance.
- We should practice
looking in the eye when we talk to people
- Looking in a pleasant
way at people show shows you are interested in them.
- We can watch and learn
from gregarious people who make friends easily.
- Always wear a smile
because people appreciate jovial people rather than gloomy ones.
- We should try to express
ourselves clearly and take special care of our body language
so that we express what we want to, not otherwise.
- Listening is an
important skill. Everyone likes for other people to pay attention to
what
they say - it makes them feel good.
- No one wants to be
around someone who glowers and emits unfriendly signals. Sometimes
we may
need to act friendly, even if we don't feel that way. We may have to
be an actor and pretend.
- When we talk to someone
new, we should ask them questions about themselves or what they like
to
do; it's a good way to get started.
- Social skills can be
learned, so we can seek professional help needed.
- There can be other
approaches to give an offer such as going out for a movie as since both
enjoy movies, maybe we should go together
sometime”. This reduces risk and also the other person is not put in
any compulsion.
Your friendship should be one that people would love to
carry on not a burden they are
compelled to carry on.
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